November 6, 2014 Shahillab

3. Action planning to keep you on track: 24/07/2014 (Hanna’s Graduation, yes it’s still the same morning!) Last time I talked to you about ensuring you factor in the ‘values’ in order to help you keep to your action planning. If your action plan does not reflect your values stuff and time is not allocated to this, it quite simply will not work because it does not motivate you. The second thing your action plan should be doing is keeping you focused and on track…all sounds quite like common sense doesn’t it? Yes it is completely common sense but at…

October 31, 2014 Shahillab

  2. Action Planning…Getting realistic 24/07/2014  05.45 am (Graduation Day, yes, still an ungodly hour but I thought I’d get this down whilst it’s fresh in my mind) Last time  I broached the subject of action planning and its potential downfall…I also left you with a few questions…did you get your answers? Here they are again, just in case: Do you have an Action Plan? If not, how do you prioritise daily, weekly, monthly and into the future? If you do have an Action plan, is it realistic? Well I’m pretty sure you looked at your action plan (whatever format…

October 31, 2014 Shahillab 4Comment

1. The very busy person’s action plan…and its potential downfall! 5.23am 24 July 2014 ( Hanna’s Graduation day!!) At this point you are probably looking at your computer screen and asking (perhaps shouting? nah!)   “What is the very busy person’s action plan and why would it be a potential downfall?”   As you can see above, I wrote this quite some time ago at an ungodly hour on the basis that I would forget this wonderful thought. I was rushing around that day trying to get a dozen things done before it was time to go to my daughter’s graduation ceremony….

October 25, 2014 Shahillab

  Statistics paint a bleak picture. Today I have been reading lots of statistics around parenting from within the UK and America and it seems that Single parent statistics look grim in different ways BUT both seem to maintain that these children are more likely to live in poverty and are more likely to suffer abuse…the rest of the picture doesn’t look too great overall either!! Now I am a very reasonable person but I do take offense to this, although I know it’s not a personal dig at me I can’t help but feel that way for a brief…

September 25, 2014 Shahillab

Did you know…you have between 50,000 and 70,000 thoughts per day…fascinating isn’t it?   NLP. The power of thought   It’s also a phenomenal number of thoughts to be having; however, our minds are so clever that they ‘filter’ these thoughts so that only the important ones are actually retained by us. This is known as DDG in NLP: Deleting, distorting and generalising. Why does our amazing mind do that? Well simply because we really couldn’t handle processing so many thoughts in a day! (A bit like emails when you get back from holiday), we’d all…

April 26, 2014 Shahillab

Get your RAS on! I guess I now need to explain what I mean by that statement. It’s a term used in NLP (Neuro-linguistic Programming) As mentioned in a couple of my motivational emails; our minds are bombarded with a huge amount of information daily. It’s your RAS (Reticular Activating System) which sorts through all this information for you so you aren’t overwhelmed, it’s the filter I mentioned. Your RAS sifts through and filters sensory information and stores it in either your conscious or unconscious mind. How much gets stored in your conscious mind is limited, the unconscious mind however,…