Are our face to face social skills being crippled by social media?

    Having written my first book in a series, I decided that I wanted to immerse myself once again into this topic of socialising. I meet people on a regular basis who are very different when socialising online and face to face. So what is it that creates this gap in the ability to socialise within the two contexts? I think it’s a combination of many factors, and I have collated research data to back up my opinions and...

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Troubling Visits From The Past

  We are after all, only human, there are things that we experienced, have happen, let happen, had done to us, whatever it may be. Although you may have ‘dealt’ with it, generally speaking, some of these experiences have a way of rearing their ugly head from time to time.   At the point of the troubled visit…what do you do?   I guess the answer to this question depends on what that troubled visitor is all about and who you...

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You know exactly what you want; you know what you need to do to get it…so why haven’t you got it yet?

I have so often wondered about how this happens, I also appreciate that we are complex beings with different perspectives, values and beliefs. I have met so many people with so much talent who say they want ‘X’ and when the discussion begins, it seems they do have all the answers to how to get ‘X’  and there’s nothing getting in the way of them going ahead and getting I’X’ immediately…which is great right? Well yes if it happens but...

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Do You Have a ‘Techy’ Detox Day?

I have previously written about technology and the mixed bag it brings us….if you’re like me it will be a bit of a love and hate relationship…mostly love but sometimes it’s just all too much tech to handle. As a single mum, who runs a business and also runs a charity in her ‘spare’ time, yes the word spare is utilised very loosely indeed as time is at a premium in my life. I feel I have the ability to...

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Did you know… you have between 50,000 and 70,000 thoughts per day? An NLP fact… fascinating isn’t it?

Did you know…you have between 50,000 and 70,000 thoughts per day…fascinating isn’t it?   [caption id="attachment_2127" align="aligncenter" width="196"] NLP. The power of thought[/caption]   It’s also a phenomenal number of thoughts to be having; however, our minds are so clever that they ‘filter’ these thoughts so that only the important ones are actually retained by us. This is known as DDG in NLP: Deleting, distorting and generalising. Why does our amazing mind do that? Well simply because we really couldn’t...

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Get Your NLP RAS on!

Get your RAS on! I guess I now need to explain what I mean by that statement. It's a term used in NLP (Neuro-linguistic Programming) As mentioned in a couple of my motivational emails; our minds are bombarded with a huge amount of information daily. It’s your RAS (Reticular Activating System) which sorts through all this information for you so you aren’t overwhelmed, it’s the filter I mentioned. Your RAS sifts through and filters sensory information and stores it in...

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