Reliance and Possessiveness…

  …is not friendship.   So I woke up this morning to a text that was sent at a time I was in sweet slumber. A text from someone I met some years ago online but at this stage was still a short step on from being an acquaintance (note the past tense).   This text was basically accusing me of avoidance and not inviting him to a Christmas party or more precisely…seeing other friends over him during the Christmas...

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The Incy, Wincy, Tinsy Little Lies We Tell Our Children

I treasure mealtimes with my girls, it’s our chance to catch up on the day’s events and to get assurances for anything that might have upset, angered or made us falter a little…a bit like group therapy, now I think about it. One such mealtime, we were chatting away and conversation came to something a child told my eldest (who teaches part time, at one of those places that parents drop their kids off to straight after school). So this usually...

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Have you ever been called a ‘loose cannon’

I hope that question doesn’t offend as it isn’t meant in that vein at all. I do wonder about that term ‘Loose Cannon’ where did it come from and why have I been called one a good few times in my life? Although I didn’t know the origins of the term or its true meaning, I got the gist alright! I checked out the urban dictionary, (good old Google always delivers) and this is what I got: “In the days...

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Troubling Visits From The Past

  We are after all, only human, there are things that we experienced, have happen, let happen, had done to us, whatever it may be. Although you may have ‘dealt’ with it, generally speaking, some of these experiences have a way of rearing their ugly head from time to time.   At the point of the troubled visit…what do you do?   I guess the answer to this question depends on what that troubled visitor is all about and who you...

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No Longer Essential  VS No Longer Needed

  If you too are in this position, I’m sure you will agree that parenting is the scariest thing in the world…mostly wonderful, but like a really good thriller, the scary parts literally make your heart stop! You want the very best for your child/ren , actually, you want better than you had…isn’t that what we all aspire to as parents, to give our children the life and the opportunities that we, for whatever reason did not have? If like...

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The Nostalgia Discovery

So often we hear that you shouldn’t live in the past, I absolutely agree with that statement…IF you re-live, through your memory all the negative things that happened…the things that make you say “I Wish” That’s a very negative way to go through life as your brain cannot differentiate reality from imagination. These memories can be triggered by anything that you have connected to that memory (sound, smell, environment) when you relive these things in your mind, you re-live it...

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You know exactly what you want; you know what you need to do to get it…so why haven’t you got it yet?

I have so often wondered about how this happens, I also appreciate that we are complex beings with different perspectives, values and beliefs. I have met so many people with so much talent who say they want ‘X’ and when the discussion begins, it seems they do have all the answers to how to get ‘X’  and there’s nothing getting in the way of them going ahead and getting I’X’ immediately…which is great right? Well yes if it happens but...

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The Piano That Really Struck Accord

“Ohh Really?, oh dear, no that’s not good but perhaps there’s a reason, I’ll go and have a chat with them” I heard myself trying to be empathetic with my neighbour’s woeful tale…a part of me, well actually, a great deal of me was completely distracted. A piano outside one of the houses…the new neighbours who had just moved in a couple of days ago clearly didn’t want it anymore; perhaps they didn’t have space for it? I guess they...

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Precious Time, Precious Life

I don’t believe that there is anyone on the planet that would disagree with the title of this blog.               Not a day goes by when someone doesn’t mention more time or better quality of life.  Yet we also hear ‘life is what you make it ‘ it’s a term that is very familiar and well utilised….so do we actually take this advice or have we stopped hearing it because it’s so familiar…you know, the ‘part of the...

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What’s Your Soul Food?

In today’s world we seem to be rushing around… doing things that ‘should’ be done and I have found that there are many who don’t make time for their Soul…when I ask them what their Soul Food is, I get a blank look, now 9 times out of 10 this means that they don’t have soul food, the other 1 out of 10 just think I’m a few sandwiches short of a picnic.   It worries me to know… …that...

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