Are our face to face social skills being crippled by social media?

    Having written my first book in a series, I decided that I wanted to immerse myself once again into this topic of socialising. I meet people on a regular basis who are very different when socialising online and face to face. So what is it that creates this gap in the ability to socialise within the two contexts? I think it’s a combination of many factors, and I have collated research data to back up my opinions and...

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Reliance and Possessiveness…

  …is not friendship.   So I woke up this morning to a text that was sent at a time I was in sweet slumber. A text from someone I met some years ago online but at this stage was still a short step on from being an acquaintance (note the past tense).   This text was basically accusing me of avoidance and not inviting him to a Christmas party or more precisely…seeing other friends over him during the Christmas...

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Self-employed? Work from Home? Family Suffering?

I have most recently been self-employed since 2012…with a few very steep changes to life and health during that time. It’s a privilege to be able to work from the comfort of your own home but it can also be a drawback, either to your business or to your family life. I know many people who struggle to strike that healthy balance between business and home life. Some have no boundaries in terms of the number of hours they work…...

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The Incy, Wincy, Tinsy Little Lies We Tell Our Children

I treasure mealtimes with my girls, it’s our chance to catch up on the day’s events and to get assurances for anything that might have upset, angered or made us falter a little…a bit like group therapy, now I think about it. One such mealtime, we were chatting away and conversation came to something a child told my eldest (who teaches part time, at one of those places that parents drop their kids off to straight after school). So this usually...

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Have you ever been called a ‘loose cannon’

I hope that question doesn’t offend as it isn’t meant in that vein at all. I do wonder about that term ‘Loose Cannon’ where did it come from and why have I been called one a good few times in my life? Although I didn’t know the origins of the term or its true meaning, I got the gist alright! I checked out the urban dictionary, (good old Google always delivers) and this is what I got: “In the days...

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When The ‘R’s Go Missing

  How ‘r’ you today? I hope things are running smoothly so that you can have another productive day. Yesterday I did what I always do, rolled out of bed, saw to the cats, pottered around tidying (I can’t function in too much of a mess, I have my limits). I enjoyed a nice relaxed breakfast with my youngest who was all set and ready to leave for her sixth form interview…exciting times! Anyway, once I saw her off I...

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Troubling Visits From The Past

  We are after all, only human, there are things that we experienced, have happen, let happen, had done to us, whatever it may be. Although you may have ‘dealt’ with it, generally speaking, some of these experiences have a way of rearing their ugly head from time to time.   At the point of the troubled visit…what do you do?   I guess the answer to this question depends on what that troubled visitor is all about and who you...

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No Longer Essential  VS No Longer Needed

  If you too are in this position, I’m sure you will agree that parenting is the scariest thing in the world…mostly wonderful, but like a really good thriller, the scary parts literally make your heart stop! You want the very best for your child/ren , actually, you want better than you had…isn’t that what we all aspire to as parents, to give our children the life and the opportunities that we, for whatever reason did not have? If like...

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The Nostalgia Discovery

So often we hear that you shouldn’t live in the past, I absolutely agree with that statement…IF you re-live, through your memory all the negative things that happened…the things that make you say “I Wish” That’s a very negative way to go through life as your brain cannot differentiate reality from imagination. These memories can be triggered by anything that you have connected to that memory (sound, smell, environment) when you relive these things in your mind, you re-live it...

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You know exactly what you want; you know what you need to do to get it…so why haven’t you got it yet?

I have so often wondered about how this happens, I also appreciate that we are complex beings with different perspectives, values and beliefs. I have met so many people with so much talent who say they want ‘X’ and when the discussion begins, it seems they do have all the answers to how to get ‘X’  and there’s nothing getting in the way of them going ahead and getting I’X’ immediately…which is great right? Well yes if it happens but...

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